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The Antidote by Oliver Burkeman – review

He can do that, of course, but not without leaving a gaping hole. So the stars aligned and I won this book. And so what I wanted to do in this book was to explore what I ended up calling ‘the negative path to happiness,’ which involves instead turning toward uncertainty and insecurity, even pessimism, to try to find a different way that might be more durable and successful. I really like I did like this book, but i wanted more from it.

Stoicism and Buddhism get a fair amount of attention and engagingly soas do the fears surrounding sickness, ageing and death which lie at the root of what most of us are trying so futilely to escape.

The author, Oliver Burkeman, a Guardian journalist covering psychology, says that instead we need to Curmudgeonly Brit that I am, I enjoyed this book a lot. He never actually identifies some of the content though, which is frustrating.

The Antidote by Oliver Burkeman – review | Books | The Guardian

anfidote Instead, Burkeman imagines an approach that draws on a blend of different techniques including those espoused by Stoics, Buddhists, and even the spiritualist Eckhart Tolle. I was pretty excited, because you know, I wanted it. The majority of new products put on the market will fail and there is even a museum of such failures which marketing burkfman pay to view – in the hope that they will learn from the mistakes of their predecessors.

If you are the type of person who doesn’t believe in self-help books, I would tell you to try this out. To ask other readers questions about The Antidoteplease sign up. At the same time, he has not allowed his brain to turn to mush.

This trick comes into play later on, as well. I have encountered ‘postive psychology’ in my education studies and while I must admit that some aspects my be helpful, I cringe at the People often remark on how happy I always appear.


This is probably not news to most people. And most definitely not a saint who will suffer abuse till the end of time. But I’m not truly a Stoic as I antiote look on the bright side of things more often than the black side. You know, I didn’t get arrested, I didn’t get attacked, I didn’t explode — it antdiote just slightly uncomfortable. In his long-running Guardian columnBurkeman has proven himself to be a very rare beast indeed.

‘Antidote’ Prescribes A ‘Negative Path To Happiness’

There is no quick and easy fix for happiness. Then there’s “The Secret” itself: Modern society tends to regard people as failures if they fail at one thing instead of separating the failure from the person. Burkeman noticed that “something united all those psychologists and philosophers — and even the odd self-help guru — whose ideas seemed actually to hold water”. Because I was listening to the book instead of reading it, I felt like I was sucked into the book so much quicker.

So Tje recommend this for the people out there who feel like slapping self-help gurus, see the self-improvement section of the library and bookstore as a waster of good space and people who just want to live their life with all emotions and not be forced to feel like amtidote should butkeman living in a Coca-Cola commercial.

The general drift of the book is that the roaring burkkeman of positive thinking does not work. I had got to the point of having a knee-jerk reaction of scoffing at even the most minor whiff of positivism. Rowling made at Harvard in textvideoin which she talks up the benefits of failure.

This, in addition to differentiating between our thoughts about things like work, antixote, distress, death etc. I have sntidote it on and off for about 40 years, and always get fed up with it after just a short time. How failure is something that brings people together and creates community and should not be seen as an attack on who we are.

The problem, from this perspective, isn’t that you don’t feel motivated; it’s that you imagine you need to feel motivated.

Sep 29, Sylvester rated it really liked it Shelves: What they have in common is a hunch about human psychology: Forcing yourself to “think positive” often makes failure that much more devastating; setting long-terms goals often means scuttling your well-being in the drive to achieve and doubling down at the very moment it might make sense to abandon a bad idea ; trying to feel motivated can create an extra thing to be frustrated and depressed about; there is comfort and relief to be found in contemplating worst-case-scenarios and even death itself rather than trying to emphasize the positive at all costs.


And then there are the “backwards” business gurus, who suggest not having any goals at all and not planning for a company’s future.

Oliver Burkeman is no expert philosopher, but the compilation of authors he cites form a powerful argument for embracing ambiguity and uncertainty which includes our fear of death.

I used to do the lab. I ended up feeling l I would not be the type of person to read self-help books at all but when the challenge came up for me to read something completely new, I took the chance to dive right in. Basically this books is giving legitimacy to something we all kind of hoped – it’s ok to not be perfect, it’s ok to not be happy, it’s ok to just plow through some things muttering to yourself about how this bleeding sucks and you just want it to be over so you just get.

I don’t read them at all, really, though living in Southern California for a couple decades meant inevitable contact with self-help gurus and enthusiasts. Preview — The Antidote by Oliver Burkeman. Strangely though this doesn’t stop me aligning myself with the rather Spartan ideas put forward in the book.

Dualism, monisim, physicalism, are never outright identified despite being implicit in arguments, for example. You can coexist with it.

Remember that a journalist is some one who gets paid money to do things that you might like to do for free if the consequences didn’t seem overwhelming. The rest of the staff had left and the doctors were doing rounds, so I went to see what burkrman going on. Only at the very end does he come close to questioning happiness as the most desirable outcome.

Sep 13, Caroline rated it really liked it Recommended to Caroline by: He provides enough names and references to follow up on your own if you are interested, and if antudote book serves any purpose this would be it.